I recently watched the movie, “Awake: the Life of Yogananda” about the life of Paramahansa Yogananda, a yogi and guru who introduced millions of westerners from 1920 to 1952 to the teachings of meditation and Krya Yoga. Yogananda brought the concept of the science of religion to American that is religious practices can be explained through science, including the idea that the hardwiring of our brains from our past negative experiences can be rewired.
I have been vastly interested in this biological and psychological question, can the brain be rewired once it has been hardwired for addiction, trauma, and other negative life experiences? Neuroscience is explaining that this can be done due to brain plasiticity, and this is the first of a series of articles I will be sharing on my blog.
This first article is on the specific techniques on rewiring the hardwiring of the brain by Hilary Stokes…
With the advances in neuroscience, brain research as shown that physical wiring of the brain is effected by our thoughts moving through it. During periods of sustained attention, neurons will wire together to create neuropathways directly affecting what we experience in our lives. Therefore, if our thoughts involve fear, worry, and doubt, then more neuropathways will wire together causing us to experience more of these feelings in our lives.
This is known as neuroplasticity, also known as brain plasticity, and is defined as changes in neural pathways and synapses which are due to changes in behavior, environment and neural processes, as well as changes resulting from bodily injury. Neuroplasticity has replaced the formerly-held position that the brain is a physiologically static organ, and explores how – and in which ways – the brain changes throughout life.
Therefore, in order to change our neuropathways, we must begin by changing our thoughts to compassion, kindness, and unconditional love. I have witnessed changes in people I have observed who have changed the course of their lives to more positive results in that they met their perfect mate, got the job in their chosen field, and found a community of friends they longed for. The following posts provide specific methods and techniques to change our brain’s neuropathways as follows: Rewiring the Hardwiring, Rewiring the Hardwiring II, and Rewiring the Hardwiring III.
These positive results began with changes in their thoughts, whereby their neuropathways began to change, and resulted in concrete positive changes in their lives. Along with these positive thoughts, practicing acceptance and surrender will bring further peace and bliss into ours lives. It is wonderful to see that spiritual consciousness can be explained through modern science. (Copyright 2013 Awakening Journey with All Rights Reserved)
During these past few months, I have been confronted with some deep seeded distrust as a result of my childhood abuse by and a philandering father. As an adult, I attracted men like my father into my life causing more emotional injury and trauma to my life. This has translated into distrust of men that is deeply ingrained within me. These past emotional injuries resulted in deep blockages within my sacral and heart chakras. In my attempts to unblock these chakras, I have tried the following methods:
Letting go what you can’t control and letting go of past emotions and behaviors through intention, belief, and actions
Awareness of triggering thoughts, events, and statements by simply observing them without reaction
Acknowledge your fears through stating them out loud or writing them down
Forgive yourself and others for past mistakes and failures by accepting your past
Learning to love yourself through self care, setting healthy boundaries with others, and nurturing yourself
At the root of distrust is the lack of self love and fear. When we fear betrayal and being hurt again, we have not forgiven ourselves and others for injuring us. We have not learned to love ourselves through setting clear and healthy boundaries with others, and taking responsibility for and control of our actions that are forms of self love.
When we learn to let go of the past through clear intentions that we no longer want certain emotions and behaviors in our lives, we follow up with the belief that we can and will change them, then follow through with consistent change in our actions. Good luck with healing your past emotional pain. (Copyright 2017 with All Rights Reserved)
My biggest hurdle is my jealousy from a sacral chakra blockage caused by childhood sexual abuse. This abuse began at the age of eight years old by my father creating an unhealthy triangulation between my father, my mother, and me. My father also had many sexual and romantic partners while married to my mother. My jealousy has to do with distrust of men, and feeling unworthy due to my relationship with my father.
Recently, I have felt pain and discomfort in my sacral chakra area, and suffer an urinary track infection. When we have blockages within our chakras, we are more likely to experience physical problems and illnesses in that region of the body. Although I am treating my symptoms with antibiotics, I must clear this deep and stubborn blockage in this chakra.
These blockages occur in many layers of pain and emotional wounds. I already have removed some of these deep and stubborn layers, but I still must work deeper and deeper to clear the remaining blockages. I us the following six techniques:
1) Creative practice (Dance, art, music, singing, etc.)
Many have commented and questioned about my Twin Flame relationship. These are the 14 signs and symptoms of Twin Flames relationship based on my personal experience as follows:
* Synchronicity and organic initial meeting (we met in person in Cinque Terre, Italy when we both live in the United States)
* Sexual experiences together are tantric (dual energetic circuits)
* Rise of Kundalini energy during the journey together
* Able to feel each other’s emotions and experiences from the beginning (energetically and emotionally)
* Similar life experiences and emotional landscapes although different races, ethnicity, and cultures
* Incredible compatibility (best friends)
* Intense sexual and energetic connection ( intense sexual chemistry)
* Time stands still during our journey together
* Similar core values
* Similar spiritual journeys
* Similar professions
* Similar interests
* Similar lifestyle
* Similar tastes and preferences
These are the 14 signs and symptoms that I have experienced with my Twin Flame while others may experience other connections . Although we also may experience these symptoms between two Kundalini active individuals, the compatibility and similarity between the two individuals are likely to diverge in their values, professions, interests, lifestyle, tastes and preferences. Every Twin Flame experience is slightly different, but the similarities outweigh the differences. It is both a compatible existence, but also a sexually intense connection.
The key to Twin Flame success is the ability to communicate about the intensity of this relationship, and working through the spiritual and emotional hurdles we face together. My twin and I spend time each day to share how we are progressing on our respective spiritual journeys and our emotional healing progress. We talk openly and authentically about our fears and how to work through the darkness we each face. Twin Flames trigger each other’s emotional wounds, and reflect back to one another our darkness and lightness.
When I address my concerns about my twin, I am truly addressing my own injuries and wounds. Whenever issues arise between us, I know I must do my own emotionally healing work just as he must do his work. We are working hard and progressing forward together as his Kundalini energy is rising now, and his emotional work must be done in order for this Kundalini rising to be smooth and without so much physical pain and discomfort as it was for me. (Copyright 2017 Awakening Journey with All Rights Reserved)
Living as an empath has its drawbacks. One is not knowing if feelings I am experiencing is mine or others. Recently, I experienced three episodes of anxiety attacks while with my Twin Flame. One of these episodes occurred near an art gallery where I felt horrible pains in my chest and in my heart chakra of emotional pain and hurt. I ask my Twin if he had a negative experience there, and he described that a gallery owner earlier rejected his art work .
On two recent hikes together with my twin, I felt panic attacks when we were discussing about his artistic and musical pursuits. The first episode involved anxiety with tightness in my chest, and difficult breathing. The second episode involved tightness in my chest and nausea. When I described these feelings to my Twin, he expressed that he had been experiencing nausea in the morning for about a year. During each of these episodes, I sense thoughts of not being good enough or unworthiness.
I am in the process of understanding why I am experiencing feelings of panic and anxiety. Are my feelings of unworthiness being triggered within me? Since he is my twin, we have similar emotional wounds, so am I merely mirroring the negative emotions of unworthiness, lack, and insecurities? As I am energetically connected to my twin, am I experiencing his symptoms of panic and anxiety?
I sense that he blames others, particularly women for his feeling of inadequacy. Are we both blaming others for our own feelings of inadequacy? Maybe this is simply a mirroring of two Twin Flames trying to unravel our issues that are intertwined. I continue to struggle to understand what is actually happening. If you have any insights, please feel free to share and comment below. (Copyright 2017 Awakening Journey with All Rights Reserved)
Fear is like waves on the ocean that come in ebbs and flows. This is what I have been experiencing after a recent argument with my Twin Flame. His behaviors triggered my past injury that felt so painful that I reacted in a way I have not reacted in over 15 years. I thought that injury was healed, but I am realizing that I still am emotionally wounded.
This emotional wound causes me to behave with distrust, jealousy, and fear of betrayal. I also realized and acknowledge that this wound is within me. I believe that my twin and I share similar emotional wounds causing us to trigger each other, and share the same fear of being injured again. I have been observing my thoughts and feelings as these waves of fear hit me.
Last night, I admitted to my Twin Flame my deepest fear of no longer being young and pretty as I age. My fear is that someday in the near future, he will trade me in for a newer and younger woman. Just saying these words out loud made my fears dissipate. It connected me deeply with my Twin to share such vulnerability and deep seeded fear of unworthiness and lack.
Fear is the voice that prevents us from being injured again, but it also is the voice that prevents us from moving forward in our lives. It keeps us stuck in the same emotionally wounded place as when we first were wounded by someone we love. Facing our fears is the first step to dissipating this fear, and taking away its power to rule our lives. May you overcome your deepest fears. (Copyright 2017 Awakening Journey with All Rights Reserved)
In the last two weeks, I have been working through issues around sexuality and self worth. Because of my past childhood sexual abuse history, I have continued to experience low self worth and struggle with issues around sex. What I have experienced is that I do not feel valued as a person as I was sexualized very early in my childhood at the age of eight.
Because of this early sexualization, I did not emotionally develop normally as a woman. My self worth was intermingled with my sexuality. That is, I only feel worthy as a sex object as that was how my father treated me. The things that make us strong as women are our nurturing ability, compassion, kindness, caring, and intuition. As I ascend, I am trying to move in this direction, but I am stuck in this confusion of my sexuality and self worth.
I do feel sexy and sensuous, but it is tied up in the feeling of low self worth. I am trying to unravel these two issues that do not need to be intermingled. I can feel sensuous and sexy and still feel worthy. My awareness into these issues has caused me to feel my blockage in my sacral chakra. Recently, my Kundalini energy has been blocked in my sacral chakra that I believe is causing pain in my abdomen.
A recent argument with my Twin Flame has raised these issues into my awareness. I became jealous over other women because I did not feel worthy due to our sexual relations. It appears when I am sexually involved with a man, the feelings of lack of self worth is accentuated where I do not feel this way with men that I am not sexually involved. There also is great fear around sexual intimacy for me as I experienced secrecy, breach of trust, and sexual violations in my childhood.
I believe the issues around my lack of self worth is directly connected with my sexual relations with my partner. As I navigate these issues, I become very aware of my thoughts around other women involving my Twin Flame so I can take responsibility for my thoughts, reactions, and behaviors. I must heal this part of me in order to have a healthy, happy, and fulfilling romantic life. As my Twin Flame says, “Onward.” (Copyright 2017 Awakening Journey with All Rights Reserved)