During my spiritual journey, one of the most difficult practices is the practice of surrender. What I have discovered about the key to surrender is our intention to accept our circumstances. This acceptance is not just something done only within our conscious minds, it becomes our belief within us. This belief within is powerful, as it can manifest what we wish, such as find the love of our life, find the job of our dreams, or find our chosen path and careers.
This is how it works. We first have awareness of our situation that we must accept, then that thought is reinforced by our actions, and that thought is repeated again and again in our minds. In psychotherapy, it is called positive affirmation by repeating and reinforcing these positive thoughts. After some time that thought becomes a belief that is then internalized within ourselves as our truth. We then live that truth with repeated reinforced actions.
Let me give you an example. Let’s say that our current partner in a relationship is breaking up with us, and we are hurt but we must surrender to our situation. First, we create the thought that I must accept my situation that my partner does not wish to continue this relationship, and I know there is someone else for me out there who is my perfect partner, and always keep these thoughts positive. Follow up with reinforced actions toward letting this person go, such as letting go of the past by deleting his/her old emails, texts, letter, other memories, and most importantly, giving up the hope for a future with that person.
Next, begin to repeat this thought that there is your perfect partner for you out there until you believe this is true, which it is. Follow through with actions, such as begin to meet new people, not necessarily jump into another relationship, but begin to see other possibilities of a new partner for us and picturing a different future for ourselves.
The key to surrender, I believe, is to replace something negative in our lives with something positive. So when we surrender, it is seeing that our negative circumstance is really a positive one, then this positive vision or belief becomes reinforced through our repeated thoughts and subsequent actions. When we surrender, it is not just giving into a negative situation, but seeing the positive aspects of it. Surrender is frequently coupled with forgiveness of the person who may have hurt us in the situation that we must surrender.
I hope you can use this as part of your spiritual practice, as I have found this technique helpful in surrendering to my life circumstances and accepting my perceived negative outcomes. Blessings of light, Brooke (Copyright 2013 Kundalini Spirit with All Rights Reserved)