Jealousy – Window of Opportunity For Spiritual Growth?

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By Sherri Cortland, ND

I’ve experienced jealousy in romantic relationships and also in friendships; who hasn’t? It’s never fun and it’s always attached to a lot of drama, which is very much “old energy.” Jealousy is a fear-based emotion that we’ve all had to deal with from time to time, but if we find it popping up in our lives over and over again, the universe is sending us a message. By continually drawing jealousy into our lives, we are attracting similar conditions so that we learn and grow.

That’s why it’s so important to examine our lives and look for patterns and connect the dots from the past to the present. When we find ourselves living a life script, that’s an indicator that there is a lesson we want to learn, but we haven’t quite gotten it right yet. Let me explain what I mean: Let’s say that you repeatedly find yourself feeling jealous-maybe in your present relationship, or it’s happened in most or all of your relationships. When a similar situation happens to you over and over again, you’re living what we call a life script, where you’re repeatedly drawing the same type of situation to yourself. We do this because there is a life lesson or Karmic debt that we very much want to deal with properly, and up to this point, we haven’t quite gotten it right. When we finally learn the lesson, we’ll stop co-creating this particular type of situation [Window of Opportunity] or person [Relationship Villain] into our lives.

Using myself as an example, the men in my life came in all shapes and sizes, but they all had one thing in common-they were all control freaks and they loved telling me what to do-even to the point of what makeup to use and what to eat for lunch. I was continually attracting that type of man to myself because I was determined to learn to stop giving away my power. It took me 40 years to learn that lesson!

If you experience jealousy over and over again, the odds are good that you haven’t dealt with it properly in the past, and if you want to stop dealing with jealousy issues in the future, the time is now to examine how you’ve handled such things in the past, and make some changes.

Understanding that jealousy is a FEAR-based emotion is an important first step. Jealousy is the fear of losing a relationship that’s important to us (romantic and non-romantic), and it’s NEVER a good idea to let fear rule our lives. It’s a much better idea to face that fear head on so that we can move on with our lives and continue to learn and grow. Here are some guidelines to help you deal with jealousy and walk through that window of opportunity for spiritual growth:

1) First of all, allow yourself to feel whatever it is that you’re feeling; and then figure out exactly what it is you’re actually feeling: are you jealous or are you angry about something? Is this just a little twinge or are you afraid of losing the relationship? Once you identify what you’re feeling and what you’re afraid of…

2) Pinpoint exactly what’s making you feel this way. Is it a gut feeling, did you see something that made you jealous, or did someone say something to you that sparked this feeling? Why is what you heard or saw affecting you this way? Try to figure out what’s at the core of your jealousy/fear.

3) Look for patterns to see if this kind of thing has happened to you before, and if so, how often. If it has happened before in this, or in other relationships, then it’s time to look at the way you’ve handled similar situations in the past and determine what you could have done differently. When it comes to windows of opportunity, once you handle it properly and learn the lesson, you don’t have to deal with it again. You move on to other lessons and continue to learn and grow. So if the same situation keeps happening, that’s a sure sign that you need to change your behavior or the way you’ve dealt with similar situations in the past.

4) Sit down with the person who is contributing to the jealousy and fear. Communicate your feelings in an honest, clear, and concise manner, without yelling and screaming or pointing fingers. Listen with an open mind and an open heart to what he/she has to say.

5) Determine if the situation can be resolved, or if it’s better to end the relationship.

Allowing jealousy to remain in our lives is giving into fear. And when we give into fear, we give away our power. If we allow someone to make us jealous, we are, in essence, giving them power and control over us. If we continue to make other’s feel jealous, we are trying to steal their power. So ask yourself and be honest with yourself, how often has jealousy reared its ugly head in your life? Is it a life script for you? If you’re not sure, ask your family and friends-they’ll tell you! If it is a life script, then try a different approach than you’ve used in the past.

Let me leave you with a little something that my Guide Group likes to say about windows of opportunity: “It’s better to learn the lesson on the ground floor rather than in the penthouse.” That’s because we have multiple windows built into our lives to learn a particular lesson. They start out gently, and become harder and more filled with drama as you miss one window and go on to the next. Why? Because there’s a lesson here that we really, really, want to learn in this lifetime; and by waking up and spotting a life script early on, we’ll save ourselves, and others, a lot of drama and pain, as we expedite our spiritual growth.

With her new book, “Windows of Opportunity,” Sherri Cortland has officially come out of the “New Age Closet” and announced to the world that not only does she believe in such things as reincarnation, Karma, and life after death, she also channels information about these subjects (and more) through automatic writing from her guides on the other side of the veil.

Cortland has been in the business world since she was 15 years old, starting as a cashier at McDonalds and working her way up the corporate ladder to Director of Specialty Sales at a large vacation resort in Orlando, FL. While working full-time, she took college classes at night and earned traditional degrees in English and Communications. After years of dealing with the same health complaints, she wanted to find out what was causing them, which led her to study herbology and naturopathy. Cortland has studied with Rosemary Gladstar and earned her ND degree from the Clayton College of Natural Health.

Cortland notes, “I’ve always had an unquenchable thirst for all things metaphysical and frequently raided my Mother’s bookshelf for her books about reincarnation, Karma, numerology, and ‘life after death.’ A friend introduced me to Shirley Maclaine’s “Out on a Limb” when it first came out, and that was it, I was off on my own personal search for the truth! I attended psychic development classes during the 1980’s and it was during one of those classes that I first began to channel through automatic writing.”

Cortland is currently working on her second book, “Raising Your Vibrations for the New Age.”
http://www.SherriCortland.com

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The Seduction of Abuse

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As I have personally experienced abuse in my life, I want to share the pattern involving seduction by the abuser.  This is part of the abuse that keep victims stuck in this pattern sometimes for many years.  The pattern goes something like this.  The abuser will seduce the victims by showering us with attention,  including lots of emails, texts, poetry, words of love, flowers, gifts, etc.

Most victims suffer from low self esteem, and many times have experienced prior abuse maybe as children. After this period of attention and adoration, then there will be incidents of violence that may involved sexual, physical, or emotional abuse. The victims will try to physically get away, but soon the abuser will return to give attention, adoration, and love repeating the cycle all over again.

Most abusers exhibit a pattern where they shower attention and adoration for several weeks then the violence will begin.  There is then a period of reconciliation where the attention and adoration will repeat again.  The seduction techniques of an abuser is finely crafted as it is perfected to a fine art.  There are words of love, and showering of attention and adoration, and this is what keeps the victim stuck in this abuse.

The way out of this pattern is simple to break the pattern.  Do not accept the abuser back in your life, and get support and protection from your family, friends, and a therapist or counselor.  When you break the pattern, the abuser may get angry or agitated as the old pattern no longer works.  There also are shelters available to victims of abuse in most communities, so seek them out.

Victims must also heal the emotional wound that send out wounded energy to abusers.  This energy cannot be hidden from abusers as abusers can sense and pick out the victim in a crowded room filled with hundreds of people.  Try my “Emotional Release Practice,” found on this tab on my Blogsite Homepage to heal your wounded energy.  Healing love, Brooke (Copyright 2014 Kundalini Spirit with All Rights Reserved)

The Choice for a Different Future

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This weekend has been a period of letting go of my past, all the things that never worked out, but is so familiar. Letting go of our past means to accept all that came before today, in order to make room for a different path going forward. It has been a difficult place for me to dwell for so long.  This old path that I have traveled is so worn that it has a rut in it.

I realized during this time that I have not come as far as I thought as I still blamed others for my own choices. In acceptance that these decisions have been my own, I now can begin to walk a different path for my life.  We begin to take full responsibilities for our actions and our choices. Sometimes, when we are on our old familiar path, we cannot see the forest for the trees as the rut we have walk in is worn so deep.

Changing our ways of behaving and making healthy choices in our lives is the first step of redirecting our life onto a healthier path. Sometimes, we make certain choices because we don’t feel worthy, and we treat ourselves as second class citizens.  Then, we must forgive ourselves for our past behaviors and choices that were not the best for our lives.

Moving toward a different future means courage to take this difficult step, and finding ourselves in a different place where we no longer miss our past.  Blessings of healing love, Brooke (Copyright 2014 Kundalini Spirit with All Rights Reserved)

Mourning our Disappointments

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Learning how to handle our disappointments is a big part of life, and being happy in our life.  It can be small such as not getting something we really want to divorce or death of someone we love.  I believe that these disappointments accumulate as pain in our emotional painbody in our energy field.  If this painbody is not dealt with, we begin to experience problems with fears, anxieity, depression, emotional problems, and even mental illness.

Each disappointment is our life is similar to a death in that we must give up our expectation of a certain outcome that we hoped for. We must grieve and mourn this loss.  If we grieve for this loss after each experience, we prevent accumulating this pain in our painbody. Most people repress this pain in the hope that it will go away.  Some people self medicate with drugs or alcohol to dull and repress this pain.

The truth is that this pain never goes away as it remains stored in our emotional painbody in our energy field.  Another problem with this unresolved pain is that it will cause us to project these past experiences onto our current day life causing us to experience fear, anxiety, anger, resentment, etc. that may be out of proportion to what we currently are experiencing.  Many times, we may hear others commenting, “you are overreacting or blowing things out of proportion.” This is because we are projecting our past experiences onto our current day life.

Mourning or grieving means to feel the pain, and I have cried so many tears recently for all my past disappointments and losses. I call this Emotional Release Practice.   Try to do this in a safe environment while alone, and give yourself the time to feel sad. Give yourself permission to feel whatever emotions you feel in the moment.  Try not to react to these emotions, but sit with it until it passes.  As you re-experience these emotions, it will become easier and easier to face.  Soon you will have healed and released this pain to allow you to move forward in your life no longer carrying around this pain with you. Healing light, Brooke (Copyright 2014 Kundalini Spirit with All Rights Reserved)

Tempering Ego’s Fears

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I want to share with you about tempering our ego’s fears.  Before we have completely released or dissolved ego, we have many situations that still cause great fear within us.  This may mean having panic attacks or just fear reactions in general throughout our day.  Unless we are physically under attack, we are not experiencing real fear, but perceived fear. Many times, someone in our current life may trigger past emotional experiences.  Our response or reaction may be to run away from this experience.

Some of this fear may be real, but most of the time, it is perceived or our projection onto this situation, as the current experience may remind us of our past experiences. The problem with reacting to ego is that this fear may paralyze us and prevent us from making good and sound decisions in our lives. We must be able to decide whether we are running away from our perceived fears or we are leaving a situation because it is the best decision for our life.  This difference can change the quality of our life and its outcomes.

The technique I have been using is “Observing Ego Practice,” found at this tab on my Blogsite Homepage.  Generally, I step back about ten feet mentally from my situation, and look at it as a third person.  I watch my fear reactions come and allow it to pass.  Once my fear passes, I am able to evaluate my situation more objectively without panicking, and can clearly see the different options for myself.  My conclusion may be the same that I must leave a situation, but I will make this decision calmly and collectively, hopefully, with good results and beneficial outcomes.   May you learn to temper your ego’s fears, Brooke (Copyright 2014 Kundalini Spirit with All Rights Reserved)

Focusing on our Purpose

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There are times on our spiritual journeys that our faith is tested and our fears make us question our path.  It has been a period of deep contemplation for me as to why I am doing this work at the college where I work.  My work is arduous in that I must support and work with sexual assault victims, and my supervisor is impossible to deal with at times.

When I took this job nearly two years ago, I heard this calling to do this difficult work, and to help the students at the insular community who are sexual assaulted.  I was guided to this community and college, and heard a voice telling me that I will be given the help I need to do this difficult work.  I also heard that I must seek out others with this same vision who will walk this path with me.

Two years later, I am still on this path, but my faith has been tested recently sometimes daily to stay with my determination to walk this chosen path.  When my work is done here, I know that I will be given the sign from the Universe that I have accomplished what I came here to do.  Blessings on your spiritual journey, Brooke (Copyright 2014 Kundalini Spirit with All Rights Reserved)