Last night, I saw a movie on sex addiction called “Thanks for Sharing.” To find out if you or someone you love suffer from sex addiction, please see this LINK. Through this movie, I realized that sex addiction is similar to alcohol or drug addiction, as it is used to mask emotional pain. Addicts resort to their chosen addictions when they have difficulties in their lives as they have unresolved emotional problems that they have no healthy ways of coping. Addictions are the result of our refusal to confront our emotional issues and problems and to do the hard work to overcome them.
Through this movie, I saw that sex addicts spend a lot time on their televisions or computers as sex addicts frequent porn channels, cybersex sites, and sex chat rooms to masturbate to satisfy their addictions. Serious sex addicts have multiple sexual partners, use prostitutes, and even resort to sexual assault and harassment to satisfy their addictions. Sex addicts do not emotionally bond with their sexual partners, so cybersex and porn satisfy their sexual compulsions without any strings attached. The need for multiple sexual partners also is uncontrollable for sex addicts as they do not use discretion in choosing their sexual partners or practice safe sex resulting in contracting STD’s.
What’s the problem with enjoying a little sex you say? It’s a serious problem when it takes over your life, when your marriage ends in divorce, you spend thousands of dollars on porn and cybersex, contract STD’s and spread it to your loved ones, your children refuse contacts with you, you lose your job, you have no true intimacy in your relationships, and you may even get arrested for sexual assault and sexual battery (non-consensual touching) of others. This is no longer enjoying a little sex, but true crisis in your life when your life is controlled by your sex addiction.
You can take a screening test to determine if you or someone you know suffer from sex addiction at this LINK. To find a support group for sex addiction in your area, please see this LINK. There is so much shame and guilt related to this illness, but there is help and support available. Please get help for yourself as your loved ones pray for your recovery. (Copyright 2014 Kundalini Spirit with All Rights Reserved)
Part of the emotional healing process during our spiritual journey is to take responsibility for our own actions. When we refuse to see our own actions, we continue to make the same mistakes, and simply point fingers at others for our mistakes. In this healing process, I am learning to acknowledge the mistakes I made, ask for forgiveness from those I hurt whether they forgive me or not, forgive those who hurt me to let go of past hurts, and change the negative karma between me and others.
This is a new semester at my college, and I am practicing just this with those I work. Last semester, I did and said things out of frustration, and I needed to change that negative karma I created with others. This semester, I decided to take those with whom I work to lunch to express a new start and beginning in my relationship with them. Sometimes, when we feel so much anger, hurt, and frustration in our own lives, we will treat others as such.
This year is about healing my past when I felt like a victim, felt out of control, and felt helpless. The truth is that others cannot truly destroy us, only we can destroy ourselves. Look deep within yourself, and ask your higher self if this is true. We have the power to do the right things in our lives to change that negative karma with others. After having grown emotionally this past year, I am no longer the victim of my past, but I am becoming the woman that I am intended to be. Become the person you are intended to be. Blessings of healing love. (Copyright 2014 Kundalini Spirit with All Rights Reserved)
Tonight brought me great joy to hear from a dear friend who is recovering from cancer. She is one of my soul sisters on my spiritual journey. She has been going through diagnosis and treatment for many months now, and I have respected her space to grieve and heal emotionally and physically from her illness. I sent prayers and love to her without the need to contact her as she needed this time for her healing.
For me, this has been a period of huge recovery, both emotionally and physically as well. About a year and a half ago, I was diagnosed with cervical cancer and my most recent test came back negative for cancer. As for my emotional recovery, even my contact with my friend tonight felt so different as I thought of what she needs from me, instead of what I want from her.
When observing my own behaviors, I have emotionally matured dramatically within this past year to someone who is a nurturer rather than someone needing to be nurtured. It is truly a testament to the power of emotional healing and self love, that when we feel loved ourselves, we are finally able to truly love others. (Copyright 2014 Kundalini Spirit with All Rights Reserved)
The perfect storm by definition is “a confluence of events that drastically aggravates a situation.” This term is used to describe severe storms in our weather, but it perfectly describes our own life circumstances when we have failed to resolve our emotional past issues. This is the life lesson that I have learned through my own life experiences.
Through our own emotional landscapes, we too have a confluence of events that is our “perfect storm” that will aggravate our life situations resulting in suffering and pain. For each of us, we have unresolved emotional issues from our past. We may have forced ourselves to live a “healthy life” currently, but inevitably we will encounter our perfect storm.
For some of us who have used avoidance and denial to live in our current lives, we may not even see this storm coming, and when it arrives, we may not even realize that we are in the mist of the storm full of destruction and chaos. We, however, begin to see that the perfect storm has blown our house down, and destroyed the very things we love in our lives.
By the time the perfect storm is in our lives, getting out of storm becomes a huge and difficult endeavor as we watch the life we have known be destroyed around us. The way to survive our perfect storm is to make peace with our past, and heal our emotional landscape so we no longer will be impacted as we will see this storm coming and evacuate to a safer place. Healing love and light. (Copyright 2014 Kundalini Spirit with All Rights Reserved)