When we are in relationships, our egos prevent us from observing or seeing these relationships clearly. Many of these relationships are karmic relationships that we attract to teach our souls the life lessons that we are intended to learn in this lifetime. Many times, these same situations may have repeated earlier in this lifetime or in a previous lifetime.
We may have been involved with the same soul or different souls with similar situations or dynamics. Just because we have not encountered the soul of this relationship in past lifetimes does not exclude them as karmic relationships. It is our actions and behaviors chosen by our free will that attract them into our lives for our souls to learn our life lessons.
How do you know if you are in a karmic relationship? These karmic relationships show a pattern of negative behaviors in our lives. For example, do we engage in extramarital affairs or cheat on our partners, whether emotionally, romantically, or sexually? Do we resort to escape or avoidance to cope with our lives such as addictions, denial, or blaming others? Do we harm others through lying, cheating, stealing, emotionally manipulating, or physically hurting others? These are sure signs of a karmic relationship whether it is you who is doing it or being done to you, and many times, it is both.
You also know it is karmic because these relationships are filled with drama, very much like watching a bad soap opera unfolding. Your ego will convince you that these relationships are soul connections, twin flames, or soul mates, but in time, reality will prove these karmic relationships to you as everything that flow from these relationships end in suffering, failure, and chaos. Once you learn the life lessons you are intended to learn from them, however, they will no longer repeat in your soul life. (Copyright 2015 Awakening Journey with All Rights Reserved)
The pursuit of personal fulfilment is necessary for a spiritual path. Our spirit thrives in the energy of what makes us genuinely happy. But let’s face it, many of us have had our fair share of trauma, tragedy and addiction. What we sometimes forget among the pain and trauma is how to simply be happy – to hold that feeling in our vibration, and write it into our neural pathways. By Contributing Writer Jennifer Deisher
Do you find the holidays is when we truly feel loneliness that we never really feel the rest of the year? When we sit at a holiday dinner table staring at the relatives we have not spoken or seen for a year, we feel the loneliness or really the disconnectedness with our family members. We may never have had a genuine, truthful conversation about who we are, our lives, or our dreams.
For me, I have decided to face this loneliness head on without pretending or feigning togetherness with my family. I have decided to spend the holidays alone, to simply face the fear of loneliness. What I have discovered is that I don’t feel lonely while alone. As I learn about myself, and to love and accept myself, I find that I really do like who I am.
What I love most about myself is my genuine interest in connecting with others, my child-like enthusiasm in wanting to learn about and try everything, and my endless search for adventure in my life. As I spend more and more time with myself, I have come to enjoy my own company, and I want to spend more time alone with myself.
I still can be judgmental, critical, stubborn, and always think I’m right, but I am softening these hard edges through self awareness. I am beginning to accept both the good and the bad about myself, and look forward to many more years with my own company. (Copyright 2015 Awakening Journey with All Rights Reserved)
“When we are spiritually bypassing, we often use the goal of awakening or liberation to rationalize what I call premature transcendence: trying to rise above the raw and messy side of our humanness before we have fully faced and made peace with it. And then we tend to use absolute truth to disparage or dismiss relative human needs, feelings, psychological problems, relational difficulties, and developmental deficits. I see this as an “occupational hazard” of the spiritual path, in that spirituality does involve a vision of going beyond our current karmic situation.” – John Welwood