Albert Einstein expressed it the best with his above quote. Our life problems repeat in patterns. So if there exists repeating situations or events in our life then it is our problems and not others. Frequently, these repeating situations and events will get worse and worse, and their consequences more severe. It is becoming aware and acknowledging these repeating patterns, and setting our intention to change our behaviors, reactions, perspectives, and expectations. This is the first step to emotional recovery.
Unfortunately, most people live in denial, project their problems onto others expecting them to change, and blame others and the external world for their failures and problems. The most common respond when someone confronts us with a problem is that they are mistaken or wrong. This is called denial. These people are stuck is a very dark emotional place. The second most common response is that we project our problems onto others. Therefore, we accuse others of having our life problems instead of taking responsibility for them ourselves. For example, if we have a violent temper, we accuse others of having a violent temper. This also is a dark emotional place since we are still operation in unawareness.
The third most common response is to blame others or events for your failures or problems. Therefore, we blame others or our external world for causing our failures or problems by unfairly placing obstacles, expectations, or circumstances on us. Living in these dark emotional places is being stuck in what I call the “self-created prison.” You have essentially locked yourself into your own prison, but you hold the key to get out.
If you are repeating the same patterns in your life, it is time to recognize, acknowledge, and admit even if it’s to yourself that you have a problem. It is high time to change these behaviors, reactions, perspective, and stop the insanity of repeating the same patterns and expecting different outcomes. If you don’t, your reality will force you to make changes because you will repeatedly face the consequences of your poor decisions ending up in life with failed efforts, divorce, unemployment, failed relationships, and maybe even, prison. May you find your path to emotional healing and free yourself from the self-created prison. (Copyright 2016 Awakening Journey with All Rights Reserved)