Guided by Your Higher Self


If you accept your life on this earth as a school where your soul learns life lessons and needs to past tests in order to move forward onto the next lesson, you will begin to understand that there are lessons, signs, and tests along your life path.  Everyone you meet in your life is your teacher.  These lessons, signs, and tests are not always clear, and we must let go of our egos to listen to our higher self or inner voice for guidance.

The higher self can be accessed during meditation, relaxation, or moving meditation where your ego cannot dominate your thoughts.  There is where you will find your guide on your journey forward.  S/he knows all things and will guide you forward for your highest good. This is how your soul evolves. Blessings on your spiritual journey. (Copyright 2016 Awakening Journey with All Rights Reserved)



Life’s Big Tests


Today, as I was having lunch with a girlfriend, we shared the most interesting coincidences. She shared with me that during the last week, she heard from or saw her last three ex’s, and one lives in Colorado.  I also heard from or saw three of my ex’s in the past month. Two of my ex’s live near me, but the third told me he lives in Las Vagas now who I had not heard from in over thirty years.

How could this be happening to both of us?  These coincidences we determine were not coincidences at all, but synchronicity or rather tests of whether we have learned our life lessons.  Both of us have been trying to move on past our ex’s onto other relationships.  Now, both of us are confronted with the test of whether we have learned our life lessons, and are sufficiently emotionally healed to move successfully foward on our journey onto the next relationship.

I believe that when we send out thoughts of our dreams or wishes, the Universe sends us signs of our readiness and ability to successfully move foward.  We both have opportunities with other men for a new relationship now, but both have been hesitant to move foward.  On our test, we have been confronted with the most important issue which is: have we learned to love ourselves and healed from those relationships to be able to set healthy physical and emotional boundaries in order to protect and take care of ourselves?  In both our situations, these ex’s were not the right fit for us, were abusive and controlling, or clingy and emotionally troubled.

I am not certain what my friend intends to do for her test, but I have decided to set very clear boundaries with my ex’s that I do not wish to have a romantic relationship with them, and for some, I wish to have no further contacts in the future. I realize now that if I no longer feel fear, resentment, yearning, or attachment to these ex’s then I have passed the test, and am able to move foward on my journey onto a successful relationship.  I believe that I am well on my way. (Copyright 2016 Awakening Journey with All Rights Reserved)


The Power of Your Energy

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There has always been synchronicity in my life. However, after I began my spiritual and emotional healing Journey, my world began aligning with the Universe.  As my Kundalini energy rose, my intuitive also abilities were heightened.

Other empaths have shared that they can hear the thoughts and feelings of others.  I have always been very sensitve, but after my Kundalini energy rose, I began feeling the feelings and hearing thoughts of those around me and at a distance of those close in my life.

Last night was the first time that someone from my distant past responded to my thoughts and contacted me.  Last night, I saw a movie about two lovers who ran into each other after they left each others years earlier.  The male character in the moive was an Asian man.  They reconnected but it was frought with problems and past hurts.

One hour into this movie, I received a message on my work email from my Asian ex-finance who I was engaged to while in college. I have not heard from him in over 30 years. It actually freaked me out as this coincidence was too close to home.  I was a completely different person in college when he knew me, and I have transformed even in the past five years.  I no longer have any feelings for him, and feel neutral indifference as we all feel when we get over our ex’s.

However, this synchronicity told me that my thoughts have power to connect and move others to action.   I have used the lazy empath’s method of connecting with others, as I would think about someone to call me, text me, or email me, and then there message would appea on my phone or computer.

I have known people to use this ability for selfish or manipulative reasons.  There are empaths and Kundalini active individuals who manipulative others for their money, possessions, and even love.  As empaths, we must use our abilities for the good of others, and not for selfish reasons.  Many empaths have learned to block out others from our energy fields, but those who are unaware of energy can easily be maniplated.

If our abilities are used to satisfy our ego’s greed, fears, vengence, or hatred, then we will be confronted by our own karma.  Taking responsibility is critical in the evolution of our souls.  What we reap, we shall sow.  Think positive, do good, and good will return to you. (Copyright 2016 Awakening Journey with All Rights Reserved)


What is a Psychopath?

banner_psychopathy“There is much to the psychopathic personality which is baffling and disturbing. 1 in about 25-30 people are psychopathic (also known as sociopaths or anti-social — the correct title being psychopath.) Since the majority or them are men, I wrote this site in part, to warn women about the dangers, especially women online, which I believe is a favourite ‘new medium’ which appeals to psychopaths. I have personal experience with this subject as well. This is because “antisocials (psychopaths) are not just characters in our fictional or true-life entertainments. They are family members, friends, co-workers, neighbors, or strangers we may encounter every day.”

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Letter to the Other Woman

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“Psychopathic mind games are invincible to everything but love. I will not carry on his legacy by taking part in these triangles anymore, injecting jealousy & hatred to fill the void of his soul.  I’ve made it through to the other side, and I know you can too. Please have the same empathy for the woman who replaces you. We can only ever stop this cycle of abuse with compassion for one another. By recognizing that all human beings deserve to be treated with respect, kindness, and honesty. By recognizing that there is no other woman – we are all that woman.”  Thank you for saving me from a life of despair, heartbreak, and disapointment.

From the woman who is finally free!

Calm in the Storm


There are people in this world who create chaos and confusion.  The truth is that they are not even aware of it.  They are unreliable and undependable, are constantly in crisis that is self created, expect everyone to accommodate their lives, engage in unhealthy and destructive behaviors, intentionally seduce married people, instigate conflicts with others, lie, cheat and steal.  The cause of all this chaos and confusion is emotional injuries and wounds within each person. There is a rippling affect to this chaos and confusion that permeates everyone and everything they touch. I call them, “toxic people.”

This is what I have noticed about what is happening in our world.  These toxic people create this rippling effect all around them and tap into the emotional injuries and wounds of others creating more chaos, confusion, destruction, and suffering, and so on and so on.  They are not evil people, but they are toxic within.  Unfortunately, they are completely unaware of their behaviors because their egos tell them that they are justified and delude them into believing their own self deception.

When we have healed our emotional wounds and find peace within, we no longer engage in behaviors causing chaos and confusion to ourselves and others.  The first thing is awareness of toxic people, and their actions.  They will tell you that they never intended to hurt you, but without awareness and in denial about their actions, they will continue to stand by this statement.

Watch and observe these people in the world.  They are the ones pointing fingers at others all the while engaging in lying, cheating, stealing, and unhealthy and destructive behaviors.  They are constantly involved in turmoil and crisis, and play the victim seeking help from anyone who is gullible enough to get involved with them. Do not allow yourself to react to this toxicity, but remain calm and just observe the chaos.  I have been gullible myself, so observed them from afar and then walk away. (Copyright 2016 Awakening Journey with All Rights Reserved)


Counseling Others While Unhealed

counselingI want to share with my readers some pitfalls and problems when we attempt to help others through counseling them while we are still emotionally unhealed.  These issues I am about to discuss are important considerations when we counsel others on emotional and mental issues while we are still unhealed.  Many in the spiritual community feel the need to help and save others from suffering, pain, and self destruction.

However, if we are still unhealed ourselves we may do more damage or harm to others, and even adversely impact our own lives.  Many in the spiritual community practice spiritual bypass, and as such, they bypassed their own emotional healing, and believe that they have cured themselves without doing the difficult emotional work required for such healing.

These are some of the problems I have encountered personally or have observed in others in the spiritual community:

  1. Projecting your needs onto your counselee:  Psychological projection is a theory in psychology in which humans defend themselves against their own unconscious impulses or qualities (both positive and negative) by denying their existence in themselves while attributing them to others.  Many times when we are unhealed, we have fears, impulses, and issues that have been unresolved.  Therefore, we believe these fears, impulses, and issues are in those we counseled instead of ourselves.  We may become overbearing, controlling, and demanding with them. This may created unnecessary anxiety, fear, and even frighten away our counselees from seeking further help.
  2. Your emotional traumas may be triggered:  Many may counsel others on issues they experienced that are unhealed traumas within themselves, such as child abuse, sexual assault, domestic violence, etc.   Many may experience triggering of this past trauma.  These triggers may cause inability to cope with daily functions, and one to experience uncontrollable fears, anxiety, and terror.
  3. Inability to set appropriate boundaries during tranference:  Transference is a phenomenon characterized by unconscious redirection of feelings from one person to another. One definition of transference is “the inappropriate repetition in the present of a relationship that was important in a person’s childhood”. When we experience traumas, one reason the traumas occurred is due to a violation of our physical, sexual, or emotional boundaries.  Even as adults, we may not have learned how to set healthy boundaries to keep ourselves safe.  Tranference is a common occurrence between counselor and counselees.  The counselee may interpret the counselor’s kindness and compassion as sexual or romantic interest.  If counselors have not learned to set appropriate and healthy boundaries, the counselor will fall prey to unhealthy and inappropriate romantic or sexual relationships with their counselees.
  4. Attraction to perpetrators you counsel: If we have unhealed emotional traumas, we vibrate at a lower vibrational frequency.  It is not a judgment to have a lower vibrational frequency as we all can increase our vibrational frequency.  However, because of the lower vibrational frequency, we may more likely resonate at the same vibrational frequency as our counselees who may be perpetrators of sexual or physical violence.  As such, we are more likely to feel sexual, physical, or emotional attraction to them as a result of resonating at similar frequencies.  This prevents the counselor from acting or responding objectively toward their counselees, and again may fall prey to romantic or sexual relaionships with their counselees.
  5. Becoming preyed upon by your counselee: When we become romantically, sexually, or emotionally entangled with our counselees, and we attempt to break off this unhealthy relationship, we may be preyed upon by the counselees.  I have known counselors who fled the state with no forwarding address to seek safety from their counselees who stalked, threatened their lives, and even set fire to their car.

I am not suggesting that you must heal all your emotional wounds before becoming a counselor, but education, training, and licensure can help with these pitfalls and on how to deal with them.  I have decided for myself that I will not serve as a one-on-one counselor for another as I am not a trained or licensed counselor.  Instead, I have decided to share my techniques and practices through this blog. (Copyright 2016 Awakening Journey with All Rights Reserved)