I have written on this subject before, but it is an issue my Twin Flame and I are working through now. Most human relationships are dependencies because they are conditional. Our relationships with our lovers, friends, and family are based on what we give to each other. This is because of ego. For example, if you give me love then I will return it, and if you give me a gift then I will return this gift. It is this for that or quid pro quo. This is the quality of most human relationships through ego that makes our world go around and around.
Unconditional love is a whole other thing. Love that is given without condition does not exist normally within our world, except God’s love for us, or your dog’s love for you. This is where most relationships and marriages fail, because once that condition changes or we no longer need that condition, the relationship fails. That, I believe, is the reason for the high statistics of failed marriages throughout our world.
How do we keep relationships alive and lasting? I believe it is to love unconditionally the soul of another being. This love is given freely, not because of someone’s appearance, wealth, status, talents, or even intelligence. It is solely because you can see the beauty and the goodness within their soul. Everyone has goodness within their soul, but you have the choice to whom you give this unconditional love. Truly enlightened people give this unconditional love to every soul, but I am not quite there yet.
As I observe those around me as an empath, I can sense the basis of attraction between others. If that attraction is based on a condition associated with a lack or deficiency in their lives, it is most likely a karmic relationships. For example, two people love each other because they have the same emotional injuries or lack. This lack becomes the condition of their relationship when each fulfills the other’s lack. The result of this condition creates competition, resentment, jealousy, and more lack which is the manifestation of the dependency relationship and really is not love.
If two people attract based on condition such as, if you will help me, then I will help you, or if you take care of me then I will take care of you. Although this relationship may be based on a soulmate connection, this relationship too will change or fail when the conditions change. Whether a karmic or soulmate relationship, these conditional or dependency relationships will eventually change or dissolve as they did in my life.
This is when we must honestly look at the relationships in our lives, and begin to change those conditional or dependency dynamics to unconditional love. You will know it’s a conditional or dependency relationship when you begin to change that dynamic with your friend, family, or lover, but they will oppose this change since that was your initial agreement together. May you find unconditional love in your life. (Copyright 2017 Awakening Journey with All Rights Reserved)